"I am playing with myself,
I am playing with the world's soul,
I am the dialogue between myself and el espiritu del mundo.
I change myself, I change the world."

Gloria AnzaldĂșa

21 January, 2009

Catching up

Hello, my darlings! First, I want to thank all of you for your sweet messages of concern and interest in my absence.

It has been an eventful month!

As most (all?) of you know, I moved out of Susan's house at the beginning of November. When people would ask me why, I had several answers, but it took me awhile to know why, myself.

I think I needed to get away to realize that Susan was not my problem. My problem was me. Within a week of leaving I had stopped some of my most self destructive behavior and I started some big work on me.

In the mean time, Susan and I started talking. And talking. I realized that if I wanted to learn how to love someone, it might be a good idea to work with the person I already loved.

And, though I don't want to speak for her, I think Susan decided that life with me was better than life without me.

So, we are together again, and I'm very happy. We are still living in our separate houses, and that may be the way it works for us. It's working now, anyway.

Heidi did come for Christmas, and it was a great visit. We had such fun hanging out and working out together.

And we have a new president!

Life is good.

17 comments:

Jen on the Edge said...

I am so happy that you and Susan are communicating and working things out!

Ginaagain said...

Oh! I'm so, so happy for you and Susan! Relationships are terribly hard but so worth the work if you are both willing to try. I'm glad to hear you had a good visit with Heidi.

How is the puppy?

Mike Golch said...

it always takes two to make a relationship work.especially if one menber has issues.My Celestine and I have had our rough spots but we are still together. I have my own health issues as does she we just do our best to take care of each other,and that is what it is all about any wayTwo people making things work.I'm glad that you and Susan are working on that.Hugs to the both of you!

Lisa Wheeler Milton said...

What great news, for both of you.

I love a happy ending.

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

This is heartening news.

My daughter is in the middle of breaking up with her boyfriend of 6 & 1/2 years--they've lived together for 1 & 1/2 years. She's so young (almost 24) that I see why she needs to get out and explore some more, but I also feel that they should/will end up together. Your story gives me hope.

I hope your happiness continues.

JCK said...

Oh, I'm so happy for you both! It takes tremendous courage to look at oneself and do the inner work. Kudos to you!

And YES! Wasn't yesterday AMAZING?!

I have missed you.

mental mosaic said...

Wonderful! Glad to hear you and Susan are making this shift together. :)

~Tui

mental mosaic said...

Wonderful! Glad to hear you and Susan are making this shift together. :)

~Tui

Cha Cha said...

So glad you're back! And so glad that good things are happening in your world!

Claire B. said...

Well, slap my knee and pass me a biscuit! This is wonderful news, Prof J!!! I'm happy for you.

And I have no idea where that twangy down home expression came from, but it seemed appropriate 30 seconds ago.

The Other Laura said...

What wonderful news! I wish the two of you all the best.

Cheri @ Blog This Mom! said...

I wish for you to have courage, discernment, health, love and peace in the new year.

XOXO

Rima said...

I am so glad to hear that, Professor J! I hope that you can continue to do what is best for yourself and your relationship with Susan.

Mrs. T said...

Great news all around! So happy for you both! Sometimes you do have to back up and then take things a day at a time.

we_be_toys said...

Oh I'm so happy to hear you two are working things out! I'm of the opinion that couples have to work at reinventing themselves from time to time. I'm just so happy for you!
And yay, for the new president!!

Sojourner said...

Good job, Bear! Keep up the good work- take care of yourself first and the rest falls into place.

YAY for the new Pres!!! I spent the whole morning wathching the t.v. which I just about NEVER do.

Zenmomma said...

I'm a little behind on my blog reader, so I'm just getting to this news which is already a little old by now. But I'm so happy to hear things are better. Keep at it. You're worth the effort!