Today is Jan. 22, 2018. I have been sober for eight years
today, and here’s my story.
I first got sober on June 14, 1988. Flag day, for what it’s
At that time I lived in Omaha Nebraska. I went to my first
meeting on a Friday night—at the gay and lesbian meeting in the cafeteria of a
hospital— “Live and Let Live.” I just
looked them up, and they’re still meeting at 8:15 on Friday nights—sending love
to you guys! Thank you!
I became a daily AAer—sometimes more than one a day, but
Live and Let Live was my home group, and there I met a group of other young
lesbians who became my tribe. Men were welcome to our almost nightly coffee
house meetings after the meeting, but the core group was about six women.
I was “in the middle of the program” when I was younger.
Daily meetings, daily phone calls, hiking together, going out to eat together.
. . It was a good time. During that time,
I ended a long-term relationship and had a brief (six month) relationship. All
the things you’re no…
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Remember Elizabeth Dole's comment about Hillary Clinton when both of their husbands were running for president? "I can't say what she is, but it rhymes with 'witch'."
This question is as old as feminism. Why is it that strong, assertive, and most importantly, successful women are called bitches? Why is it that there is no masculine equivalent to that word? Because a strong, assertive, successful man is just a man!
I think Tina Fey may have been taking part in a time-honored tradition: reclaiming an insulting word. Back in the 1980's, lesbians decided that the word lesbian was not an insult, but a neutral descriptor. And dyke? A Dyke is a strong, assertive, political lesbian. If I take that word, you can't hurt me with it. At least that's the idea.
So, for me, Tina Fey was claiming a word that has been used and used and used against women and saying, yes. Yes, I am a bitch. I am a strong, assertive, political woman.